Let’s settle something important.
Who is the best boyfriend in Nepal?
Nobody knows. There is no official competition, no trophy ceremony, and no government office where you can submit an application declaring yourself Nepal’s most romantic man.
Which seems like a missed opportunity.
Because somewhere in Nepal, there must be a guy who remembers every little detail about his girlfriend, plans amazing dates, makes her laugh when she’s having a terrible day, and somehow knows what “Nothing’s wrong” actually means.
And then there’s me.
I have decided to investigate whether I could qualify for this prestigious, completely imaginary position.
Before anyone asks, yes, I understand that my girlfriend would probably be the person who decides whether I’m any good at this. Unfortunately, I cannot simply award myself the title and expect the entire country to agree.
Although, admitting that limitation already demonstrates a certain level of self-awareness.
We’re off to a promising start.
1. The First Requirement: Actually Paying Attention
Apparently, being a good boyfriend involves listening.
Not the kind of listening where you nod while mentally planning what to eat for dinner. Actual listening.
If she tells you about a terrible day at work, the correct response might be to listen, ask what happened, and show that you care.
It probably isn’t the moment to explain how you would restructure her workplace’s entire management system.
And if she tells you something important, remembering it later is a bonus.
Imagine casually bringing her favorite snack home because you remembered she mentioned it two weeks ago.
No grand romantic speech. No expensive gift. Just a small gesture that says, “I pay attention to you.”
Honestly, that sounds more impressive than posting a photograph of roses with a caption about eternal love.
2. The Date Planning Department
My ideal date involves adventure.
A beautiful road, a motorcycle, mountain views, good food, and absolutely no need to spend the entire day sitting inside a shopping mall.
But here’s the problem.
What if she hates motorcycles?
What if she gets carsick on winding mountain roads?
What if her idea of a perfect date is staying home, ordering food, and watching a movie?
Congratulations. The boyfriend has encountered his first major compatibility test.
The solution is surprisingly simple: ask her what she enjoys.
Sometimes the perfect date is a spontaneous trip to Pokhara. Sometimes it’s a quiet café. Sometimes it’s walking around the city, sharing snacks, and talking about absolutely nothing.
The destination matters less than whether both people actually enjoy being there.
And yes, I suppose I should occasionally let someone else choose the restaurant.
Even if I have strong opinions about the menu.
3. The Financial Test: Love Versus the Wallet
Let’s talk about money.
Some people believe a good boyfriend should buy expensive gifts, take their partner to luxurious restaurants, and plan elaborate surprises.
Those things can be lovely, provided they’re affordable and genuinely appreciated.
But does someone need to spend NPR 10,000 to prove they care?
Imagine buying an expensive gift when a handwritten note, their favorite snack, or a thoughtful afternoon together would have meant just as much.
The goal isn’t to impress someone with a bank balance. It’s to show that you’ve thought about them.
Of course, if you can afford an amazing holiday together, enjoy it.
Just don’t confuse spending money with building a relationship.
And please, never take out a loan to buy flowers because you saw someone doing it on Instagram.
Your relationship doesn’t need to begin with a financial crisis.
4. The Communication Test
Here’s a situation.
Your girlfriend sends you a message saying, “I’m fine.”
You ask whether everything is okay.
She says yes.
You ask again.
She says she’s fine.
Now you’re wondering whether you should ask a third time, give her some space, or send a picture of a cat.
There is no universal answer.
People communicate differently. Sometimes someone genuinely is fine. Sometimes they’re upset but need time before talking about it.
A good partner doesn’t have to be a mind reader. They need to be willing to communicate, listen, and respect the other person’s boundaries.
And if there’s a misunderstanding, the goal should be to resolve it rather than win an imaginary courtroom case.
Being right is occasionally less important than understanding each other.
Although I reserve the right to be right about which road has the better mountain views.
5. The Loyalty Test
Being romantic when everything is going well is relatively easy.
The more important question is how you behave when things become difficult.
Can you keep your promises?
Can you be honest even when the conversation is uncomfortable?
Can you respect your partner’s independence, friendships, and personal space?
Can you disagree without turning every argument into a competition?
A relationship isn’t a job interview in which you perform perfectly for a few weeks and then stop trying once you’ve been hired.
It’s something two people continue to build.
And if either person realizes the relationship isn’t right for them, they still deserve honesty and respect.
You cannot force someone to love you by becoming better at romance.
You can only choose the kind of partner you want to be.
6. So, Am I the Best Boyfriend in Nepal?
At this point, I have identified several promising qualifications.
I can appreciate adventure. I understand that thoughtful gestures matter. I recognize the importance of communication, trust, and consistency.
Unfortunately, I have encountered a problem with the application process.
I am both the candidate and the person conducting the investigation.
That is a fairly obvious conflict of interest.
I could award myself the title right now, but that would be like giving myself a five-star review for a restaurant I’ve never visited.
The evidence would be questionable.
Besides, the person who actually gets to experience the relationship should have a say in whether it’s good.
So my application remains under review.
The committee has not yet responded.
The committee, incidentally, does not exist.
Final Verdict
I began this investigation looking for the qualities that might make someone the best boyfriend in Nepal.
What I found was that being a good boyfriend isn’t about being the richest, most handsome, funniest, or most adventurous guy in the country.
It’s about making another person feel respected, valued, understood, and free to be themselves.
You don’t need a perfect romantic record. You don’t need expensive gifts or dramatic declarations.
You need to care about the person you’re with and make a genuine effort to treat them well.
As for the official title of Best Boyfriend in Nepal, I regret to inform you that applications remain open.
I would like to submit mine.
I cannot guarantee perfection, but I can promise that the application process will be considerably more entertaining than this country’s imaginary boyfriend awards ceremony.
Final status: Application submitted. Results pending.
If you know someone who believes they deserve the title, feel free to nominate them.
Just remember that the person dating them gets the final vote.